Transforming
your Grief

As a person who has lost loved ones, I understand you want to metabolize your grief and integrate it. You want your life to feel livable again and full of meaning.

You want to feel more joyful again, at ease and have more energy whilst still holding the precious memory of your lost loved one in your heart.

Whether you loss is more recent or it has been a few years ago, it is possible to find a meaningful life on the other side of your grief and this would open you up for a thriving life, not just a life of surviving. Imagine feeling inspired by life again and being able to process your grief in a way that is positive and healthy.

But the problem is that you are likely still in the depth of grief. The pain of the loss and the longing for their presence is overwhelming and persistent, it leaves you drained and numb.

If you are still grieving and it’s been a while, that is completely fine. Grief doesn’t have a timeline to follow and there is no guidebook with rules on how to do it the right way.

You may feel a lack of energy or be weighed down by the intensity of emotions, feel easily annoyed at everyone and everything and wonder ‘what’s the point anyway, now that my favourite person is gone?’

Or you completely avoid grief by staying busy, self-medicating or drowning yourself in work. In our society, we are taught to avoid grief, suck it up or move through it quickly.

When you unpack all that entails the loss experience and see what the purpose of grief really is instead of bypassing it, you will be able to digest and integrate it into your life.

By walking through it and coming out of it you will truly know that you are ok. 

Embracing the pain as the price for your love will set you free.

Learning to live in a life without them and finding ways to thrive is a transformational pathway that metabolizes your unique grief.

That’s why I created the new online course Transforming Your Grief to guide you through the process to help you metabolize your grief, look at it, understand it and begin to integrate it to find new capacities, resilience and empathy.

My promise to you is that you will step away from this course being able to see the gifts in grief and embrace healing as a tribute to the meaning your loved one has in your life. You will embody deep self-acceptance, and embrace the nature of the circle of life, including birth, life and death as parts of a whole.

By the end of this course, you’ll experience:

• Being able to effectively deal with intense emotions when they come up
• Having greater trust in your resilience to deal with anxiety and stress
• Fresh confidence needed to navigate uncertainties in life
• Working with your grief when activated by using specific tools and practices
• Living a meaningful life, which includes the memory of your loved one
• The capacity to redirect your energy into activities you value and enjoy
• The powerful potential of truly leaning into your support network and being more available in those relationships

You will create a meaningful life, which includes the memory of your loved one and at the same time, you will be able to redirect your energy into activities you value and enjoy.

It was May 2011 and my private practice was busting with a full client load. I was first time pregnant with identical twins. At 19 weeks pregnant we found out that one of our daughters, A’Mya, had multi-cystic kidneys which put her life at risk. The sadness and uncertainty were as present as my growing belly. I was grieving the life I had envisioned with my twin daughters.

Meanwhile, on the other side of the planet, my mother just attempted suicide. I was in shock and traumatized by the news. My mother went to a clinic to be supported through this challenging recovery.

Our daughters were born 5 weeks early. A’Mya lived for 3 days. Raising her sister Ananda Mae, a newborn, at the same time as grieving was confusing. “At least you’ve got one,” some said, while others added, “You’ve got to stay strong for your husband and child.” Even though people were trying to help, I felt misunderstood and those words fell cold.

Only four and a half months after the birth of my daughters my mother died from suicide.

My life before those traumatic losses wasn’t devoid of grief and loss. One would say I was practised at grieving, letting go, and moving forward in life. Yet, those traumatic and unexpected deaths impacted me more than anything before.

Embracing my grief and learning to integrate it into my life became a personal path, one that I had previously walked alongside my clients. This experience allowed me to deepen my professional knowledge in a way that only a personal experience can.

In the second year of grief, I wrote my first grief resource book for which I interviewed many bereaved parents. Through my passion for doing so, my practice soon filled up with bereaved people looking for support.

Now, 11 years later, I have not only survived, but am truly thriving, and I’m passionate to support you and others in navigating grief.

So I invite you to join me and people from around the world to discover how to truly thrive, rather than just survive. You were not born to be beaten by your trauma, but to rise from it like the Phoenix from the ashes.

Module 1

Your Base: Creating a Map of Life After Loss.

This first module lays out the map of the new land of life after loss. We define concepts and discover the common experiences of people after experiencing a loss, and you will be able to navigate through your reactions and responses. In this module, you’ll discover:

• How to differentiate between emotional, physical, cognitive and spiritual reactions
• How to find your way from the craziness of grief to healthily deal with your reactions
• How to factor in the differences between grief reactions and other physical symptoms 

Module 2

Your Realisation: Understanding Grief and Trauma

 One of the most important resources clients draw from their grief accompaniment is that by understanding grief and trauma, the whole experience becomes more bearable. You will learn how to deal with emotional flooding and how to express needs and boundaries in constructive ways. You’ll discover:

• How to access, manage and express feelings in helpful ways, finding the balance between too little and too much expression
• The advantages of operating from a place of healthy detachment
• To know and apply the benefits of sleep, exercise and crying

Module 3

Your Support: Leaning Into Your Network

The right kind of support is vital to your ability to deal with grief. We begin with a summary of the different groups of support available to you, both professional and personal. This will help you gain a clearer picture of your support circle’s strengths as well as weaknesses. Using the example of firefighters and builders, or the model of the four categories from the book Bridging The Grief Gap you’ll discover:

• How to find and access the support around you and how to handle when offers aren’t helping
• How to clarify your needs and find ways to communicate them
• How to benefit from your support team by distinguishing between firefighters and builders and understanding the Four Categories Model
  

Module 4

Your Gift: Owning Your Loss Story

Cognitive distortions, grief myths and your personal grief history shapes your experience. Owning your story and changing the narrative can either hinder or further the integration of your grief. This module will lay out the foundation of what to say when, why, where, and to whom. You’ll discover:

• How to answer people’s questions to benefit your healing
• How, when and why to use your story of loss and trauma and understand the role of memory
• How to change your narrative and turn your story into a hero’s journey

Module 5

Your Activation: Gaining Clarity on Grief Triggers

Although positive healing efforts to integrate your grief can be powerful, it is usually insufficient to avoid grief triggers. This module creates awareness of those situations that generally activate your grief and how to deal with them and how to build exit strategies for when things get too much. You’ll discover:

• The importance of gaining clarity about your grief triggers
• The distinction between meeting, embracing, diving under or avoiding triggers
• A specific procedure helping you develop skills of emotional self-regulation

Module 6

Your Shift: Taking Charge of Your ‘Meaning-Making’ After Loss

Meaning is not given, it is made, either unconsciously or consciously. When we become aware of our unconscious meaning-making, we can decide which meanings to keep and which ones to change. This module lays out the themes for discussion to create meaning that supports you to recreate more life around your grief. You’ll discover:

• How to become aware of your unconscious meanings and beliefs around grief and loss
• How to best approach meaning creation that draws post-traumatic growth
• The ability to differentiate between helpful and unhelpful meaning-making and change the unhelpful meaning

Module 7

Your Way Forward: Integrating All For an Empowered Life

In this final module, we will pull all that you discovered in the past weeks to address the most common challenges going forward. We’ll discuss additional factors, such as steps to take with sleep, exercise, and medical issues that lead to successfully integrating grief into your life. This will allow your life to grow around the grief and move from surviving to thriving in your life after loss. You’ll discover:

• How to uncover and overcome the effects of your overwhelming grief
• How to make space for grieving and set limits with trigger exposure
• How to explore additional resources and know when to seek professional help

Instant Registration Bonus: Free 1-1 Session with Nathalie

Expires within 24 hours after the free online event. Sorry, this bonus has already expired!

This gifted session for early registration participants will be scheduled during the program. With years of experience in grief counselling and coaching, Nathalie can hone in and provide value towards whatever your priorities are, as well as how you can personally apply the modules specifically for you, and get the most out of the 7-week program. This provides a full hour of time focused on your own personal journey in addition to the group sessions in the program.

(value $320)

Early Bird Bonus: Video Workshop with Janet McGeever

Dealing with the Effects of Grief on the Relationship, Intimacy and Sex

Closes midnight Friday, (March 17th, 2023 - 7 pm GMT). Sorry, this bonus has already expired!

As an educator, TEDx speaker, psychotherapist and author, Janet shares her wisdom on how grief affects the individual’s ability to be in intimate contact when experiencing grief. She draws from years of experience in working with couples and individuals and brings attention to the differences in male and female intimate needs and desires, the importance of slowness and presence and how to connect again after intimacy has been lost or diminished.

(value $197)